Thought of the Day 09.11.08

People in dating relationships always want to know whether this person is the one they should marry, and I say the key indicator is the willingness to change and sacrifice for each other. Unfit partners are reluctant to do either because they are only interested in the relationship so long as it’s convenient to them.

In contrast, good partners are willing to do (and give up) whatever it takes because the other person has become more important to them than themselves. When someone is essential to your life rather than just a pleasant add-on to it, such choices become simple. That’s why sacrifice is the only true music of love, and marriage requires a duet.

Yet, if sacrifice is proof of love, we can begin to see how much God loves us, since He gave up His very God-ness to be humiliated on our behalf. The only question is whether our lives demonstrate the same willingness to sacrifice and change or whether our professions of devotion are just the easy lip service of partners who aren’t really marriage material.